“Ah, he’s not my type!” You said so every time my friends try to match you with a single man. And because you keep holding on to this ideal type of guy, you do not also get a pair.
The attitude of holding fast to the establishment’s need is fostered, but for the affairs of this one, you can forget about it first. Andrea Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing), advised the women to expand his views, and open to the figure of a man who may be beyond your social circle so far. Who knows, men are not the type that just makes you become Mr. Right for you!
“We will not always managed to get a guy who we think would fit with us, or people we imagine in our minds,” he said. “I want to encourage these women, if they put a strong feeling on someone (which is not the type you are), do not be afraid of those feelings because after him could make him a companion you later.”
This book is written based on his own experience and his friends. The biggest mistake women when dating is, the quest for the potential, not the person. Women often think that men can be changed, or come near you, if we are always in the vicinity. However, women need to study the behaviour of man, not his words.
“No matter if he promises you something. But if you do not get what you need, that’s a sign that you have to move forward,” he said again.
Basically, according to Andrea, there are three kinds of men “not the type you” to consider:
1. The type that actually the opposite of your usual choices. Maybe you always think to choose the type of extroverts, but then you fall in love with the introverts. Or, you are usually the type of pursuer bad boy, was suddenly interested in this Mr. Nice Guy.
2. The type that really will not get listed in the kind of guy you are. Either he was too short, too bald, or too fat. He was not tall, crew-cut, or slim muscular.
3. Types that may suit your type, but with a background that does not support. For example, he was a widower with children, different religion, or live outside the city. Under these conditions, when the he does not qualify (though you really like it), so you doubt yourself. You do not know what to do.
“If you want to be with him, you always happy with him, and he can make you find the best side of yourself, why should question it again? Pursue him,” suggests Yates.
Well, if you suddenly fall in love with a man who is not the type you are, do not rush a decision. You need to be open to the fact that the he comes from “packaging” that is different than you imagine. Brief list of “types” that you have, and create a priority. For example, which is more important: have family values ??are high, or tall body?
Observe also how your dating patterns. Are you always dating men who lie, or are you just interested in the bad boy? Try to break this pattern, and determine the values ??that are more important to you.
Then, challenge yourself. You may have a clue about who should’re dating, but should not be a necessity. For example, “He should have never married.” If you are having too much set, you close yourself to the other type of man who might chance to be your true partner.
